The Marriage Institution

A harmonious marriage between a man and a woman is one of the most beautiful and rewarding experiences one can have. But what happens when that beautiful experience is not so beautiful any longer and the love that was so deep has turned into bitterness of heart and hate? What happens when proper counseling has not brought forth the desired fruit, and the hope of the relationship being restored seems lost? And what happens when our spouse turns their back on God, the only true reconciliator of marriages? Is there still hope after all hope appears to be gone? Yes!

As painful as this may sound when dealing with a marriage, divorcing or “making one into two” is necessary and needed to save and preserve life. To save a person’s life from the destruction of cancer, a surgical separation must take place. To keep our community safe from a known rapist, they must be separated from the community and incarcerated. A rabid animal must be separated so others may not die also. And as painful as it is, there are husbands and wives who are greatly corrupting their spouse and a separation must take place to save and restore them, before both are lost forever..

This book has been written to save those who make up the family, not necessarily to keep a marriage together. The author recognizes that it is priority to save the marriage, but also knows that some marriages are not meant to be saved, and shouldn’t be.

There is a time when the Lord Jesus is our High Priest to bring us together in a marriage; from being two, He makes us one. But there are other times He is our Physician who comes to do surgery as our last resort to bring healing. The surgical procedure of divorce is one of those times.



Who Invented Divorce Anyway?

Divorce and remarriage was never a question with God. For “When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her, AND HE WRITES HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE, puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and goes AND BECOMES ANOTHER MAN’S WIFE...” (Deuteronomy 24:1, 2).

And again, “Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you LOOSED FROM A WIFE? Do not seek a wife. BUT EVEN IF YOU DO MARRY, YOU HAVE NOT SINNED” (1 Corinthians 7:27, 28a).

There were times when God forbids His people to divorce. There are two situations in Deuteronomy 22:13-30 where God has REMOVED the right to divorce. This means that when needed, the right to divorce has always been there. In these cases that right was abused, so God revoked it. The first instance was when the husband claimed that his new wife was not a virgin, when in fact, she was proved to be so. Because the husband brought a bad name on her, “...He cannot divorce her all his days” (Deuteronomy 22:19b).

The other case was when a man had sex with a single woman who was a virgin. He must pay a fine [the dowry of a bride] to her family, and by having sex with her he has taken her as his wife and “...[Was not] permitted to divorce her all his days” (Deuteronomy 22:29b). But “if her father utterly refuses to give her to him [the marriage would be cancelled]” Exodus 22:16.


There are many critical keys in this book regarding divorce, remarriage, submission, interracial marriage and relationships. Click on Divorce: God's Will? to order.